Stigma And Mental Health Impact Of Divorce On Women In Nigeria
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Stigma And Mental Health Impact Of Divorce On Women: A Nigerian Perspective

Divorce refers to the termination of a marriage or a marital union. Divorce usually involves the cancellation or reorganization of a person’s legal duties and responsibilities which were extended to him/her through marriage or bonds of matrimony. In most countries, divorce is required by law so as to allow the former partner to marry another person [Gilman, Kawachi, Fitzmaurice & Buka 2003] However divorce is not usually a smooth process and has significant impacts on the partners physical, social, economic and even mental health and wellbeing. In this post, I will focus specifically on the stigma and mental health impact of divorce from a Nigerian Perspective. 

 

The process of getting a divorce could be extremely gruelling and challenging psychologically and financially for women. Moreover,  the social stigma associated with divorce impacts one’s mental health, especially in absence of a strong support system which is often the case for divorced women in many societies. Many studies have reported a negative impact of divorce on health although it is still not clear to what extent it is due to early vulnerability, material and social consequences of divorce or its direct emotional effects.

 

In Nigeria, more especially in the Igbo tribe, divorce is often seen as such a taboo coupled with religious factors that women prefer to stay in dysfunctional marriage over getting a divorce. Divorced women are often seen as second-hand/inferior, troublesome and the cause of the failed marriage. Sometimes they don’t receive support even from their immediate family members who prefer to join others to persecute and humiliate them. This often causes mental health breakdown. 

 

It’s pertinent to note that divorce and stigma have effects on somatic and mental health most of which can be seen/associated with increased anxiety, depression, increased risk of alcohol abuse, aggression, financial hardship, lack of confidante. While for some, divorce is a relieving end to a dissatisfying relationship, for others the disintegration of the relationship and the divorce itself cause deep psychological distress that keeps one from moving forward. For some the common feelings of anger, resentment, confusion, fear, shame and anxiety during and after divorce takes up permanent residency in one’s emotional makeup and wreaks havoc on both mental and physical health. This can be the case even if you were the one who chose to leave the marriage. As divorce has carved a niche in the community so does the stigma surrounding it hence the recognition of its destructive impact on both emotional and physical wellbeing as well as the need for specialized treatment designed to support people who are struggling during and after divorce. The lack of access to good mental health care coupled with stigma regarding mental health issues makes the situations more challenging and complicated for many divorced women. 

 

STIGMA ASSOCIATED WITH DIVORCE INCLUDES 

 

Discrimination, rejection and segregation by Family and Friends: 

As mentioned before, divorced women are not socially respected or accepted in society and often find themselves alone and being avoided by close friends and family. It’s a common notion among people in Nigeria and many other societies that divorced women are evil and can have a negative influence on other women. And, having a close friendship with a divorced woman might cause problems in one’s marriage or relationship. Sometimes, even family members or siblings tend to come up with such discriminatory attitudes, instead of rendering support to each other.

 

Moreover,  it’s a norm and culture in the Igbo tribe that landed properties are for the male child as the girls will become part of another family after marriage. When a girl’s marriage doesn’t work out and she comes back to her father’s house after divorce, she faces rejection and segregation within the family so that she can’t claim her father’s house or property. When a woman with children gets a divorce, the prospects of remarriage are really less. Therefore, divorced women with kids, psychologically, emotionally and financially are traumatized as a result of the divorce process and rejection by friends and family.

 

Job Discrimination, Denial and Hostility at Workplace: 

Divorced mothers or divorced women often find themselves discriminated against in the workplace, during the job interview and hiring process. The social perception that divorced women are troublesome and their presence might distort an establishment is responsible for this. It might be extremely challenging for someone to be at the receiving end of such discrimination as it reduces one’s self-esteem and impacts mental health and wellness. Moreover, the impact of workplace gossip, grapevine communication and name tag surrounding a divorced woman could be extremely traumatic and detrimental for one’s psychological health. 

 

Societal Antagonism:

It is observed that the society react antagonistically to the divorced woman and on numerous occasions avoid/excommunicate her, thanks to rural to urban migration such behaviour is able to be contained as financial well to do women who can afford relocation to different state do so for a change of environment.

 

 

Mental Health Issues Caused by Divorce: 

The effects of divorce on women can be devastating, the stressful effects of divorce can leave women feeling rejected, insecure and depressed as a result of rejection, they lose their self-esteem. Divorce can be most devastating for women in traditional marriage who lose their identities as well as their financial security with the loss of a husband [McGoldrick, M, C. Anderson & F. Walsh 1989] According to a study by Hayward M & Zhang, Z [2006].

 


Eating disorder:

The effects of divorce are not just confined to the emotional realm but may be articulated through specific behavioural disturbances that endanger physical health. One particularly common phenomenon experienced by people struggling with the stress of marriage breakdown is the development of disordered eating patterns. While many joke about the benefits of the ‘divorce diet’, in reality, weight loss following separation and divorce can be indicative of a serious and destructive physiological response to overwhelming stress. However, undereating is not the only eating disorder caused by divorce. Some turn to food for emotional comfort leading to overeating, binge eating in an attempt to cope with psychological pain.

 

Substance Abuse:

While some seek comfort in food others experiencing overwhelming distress following divorce self-medicate with drugs and alcohol to find relief from psychological pain. When the seed of substance abuse is planted by marriage dissolution, it’s imperative that the psychological effects of divorce are treated in concert with the substance use itself to address the full scope of the problem and ensure lasting sobriety.

 

Women are more susceptible to the physical and psychological effects of divorce than their male counterparts. Mental health is an integral component of health as The WHO [2010] constitution states ‘health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity An important aspect of this definition is that mental health is described as more than the absence of mental disorders or disabilities. Mental health is a state of wellbeing in which an individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with normal stresses of life, can work productively and is able to make a contribution to his or her community therefore it is necessary that women passing through divorce receives help psychologically, mentally, socially, physically and financially to be able to cope with challenges divorce comes with and have a good mental capacity to carter for family and community.

         

 REFERENCES

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  5. Hayward M & Z. Zhang 2006: Divorced middle-aged women more prone to heart disease than those who remain married. J. marriage and family 68 (3): 639-657

  6. WHO 2010. Mental health: Strengthening our response, Geneva.

AMAKA ELOCHUKWU, contributing writer of Rights of equality

Amaka Elochukwu is a Registered Nurse, a divorced mother of one who enjoys writing. Amaka believes that all genders are equal and should have equal rights and looks forward to seeing such changes acknowledged in her own country, Nigeria.

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