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The Role of the Society in Crafting Our Body Image

There are a lot of things that led to my developing body image issues as a teenager. A lot of this was teasings and comments from a few school friends, and for a long time, I wanted to blame my eating disorder on those specific people.

But the older I grow the more I realize that’s it’s a more systematic issue. It is an issue of how we, society, perceive different body shapes and sizes and deem something acceptable and pretty and reject every other body shapes and sizes.

 

Our Body Image and The Role of Society

Society has always had expectations of what is acceptable for both men and women.For women, here are a few:

 If you wear short clothes, you are slut-shamed. 

If you dress modestly, you’re called a prude and a bore. 

If you are dark-skinned, you get backhand comments from every distant relative you meet all of who think it’s their business to untan your skin. 

If you’re loud you are called bossy, but if you’re quiet you’re told to speak up. 

If you embrace femininity and love makeup and dressing up you’re called vain and attention-seeking, 

but if you’re not into any of those things you are told to take care of yourself better. 

Of course, society also has a lot of these constructs regarding what an acceptable size and body are. For example, if you’re too skinny you get comments about how you need to eat more, but if you do eat a good amount, and have a healthy weight, you are encouraged to lose weight.

I have struggled with all of these social constructs as I’ve grown up, but one of the main ones I’ve struggled with is my body image.

 

Thin Ideal and Fatphobia

In my opinion, from a young age, teenagers observe the world around them and learn what body shapes are acceptable and which ones are not –

 

– They grow up watching their chubby classmates mercilessly getting bullied, and teachers sometimes contributing to it.

– They hear snide comments being made when an overweight family member or friend takes an extra dinner serving.

– They hear close relatives and friends make fun of that one fat friend. They see the fat character in cartoons being portrayed as ugly, lonely, and undesirable.

– They watch movies to see only the skinny characters have a happy ending, while the fat ones merely serve as laughing stocks.

– They see people getting congratulated for losing weight and reprimanded for weight gain.

– They see people and corporations encouraging diet culture, restricting food, and starving themselves just so that they are thin.

– They look at magazines and see only skinny people on the covers.

 

And so when these kids become teenagers and young adults, and they gain weight (something completely natural in adolescents), they are already conditioned to believe that their weight gain is wrong. They believe that them not being exceptionally skinny is a fault of their own, and somehow downvalue their self-worth. They believe that they have to make an effort to lose weight to be pretty. This affects everything: their self-worth, self-esteem, mental health, and even physical health at times and they develop a negative body image.

 

The Body Confidence Project

Click here to participate in the Body Confidence Campaign initiated by Rights of Equality to defy the ideal and unrealistic standard of female beauty, and to promote self-acceptance and self-love.

 

From a very young age, we, humans subconsciously start believing that calling someone fat is an insult but calling someone thin is a compliment. When in reality, both the words just describe someone’s body shapes. They are descriptive words like ‘short’ and ‘tall’.

But because of how fatphobic society is in general, we grow up with a negative connotation of the word fat. We grow up with a bias in our mind, which in its simplest form is that thin is pretty and fat is ugly.

But this isn’t always true. Neither is the argument that all fat people are unhealthy, and all thin people are healthy. A lot of people show “concern about the health” of those around them that are overweight. But, food intake and activities aren’t the only things that determine someone’s weight. Health depends on a lot of things aside from the shape of your body, and some of the skinniest people I know have the unhealthiest lifestyles.

Additionally, there are a lot more factors that decide someone’s diet other than just being lazy and not taking care of oneself. Certain health conditions and hormonal issues are things that are under no one else’s control but play a huge role in regulating someone’s weight. The environment and the affordability of food also plays a role in the weight of a person. Being overweight or obese is painted as someone’s personal choice when it in fact is not. And even if it is someone’s choice, who are we to judge them?

 

 

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The first thing I noticed about this picture was that I don’t look fat in this. Which was why I posted it. And then I looked at my face and noticed how round it looks. I looked at my arms and saw how tanned they were (bc summer pe sucks). Which was why I deleted it. But then I read @victoriagarrick new post and that motivated me to post this. And also made me think that I do this with everything I post (and delete after posting). I try to make sure I look different. Less me and more perfect. I don’t post pictures if I look a bit fat. Or if my hair looks mildly bad. Or if any small part of me in that picture looks ‘weird’. Even if the picture is one of the nicest picture I have. And here’s a reminder that we look good enough for our feed even if we are not looking our best. Ofc nothing wrong with editing your pictures and trying to look your best. but sometimes it’s better to not look at your picture (and your body) and see it as something which needs to look better/perfect to go online. It’s already good enough for social media 🙂

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Body Positivity vs Body Neutrality

Over the last few years, there has been an outcry against fatphobia and a movement to love and support your body, called body positivity. Body positivity in it’s simplest terms is a movement that encourages young people to love and accept their body irrespective of how they look and reject social constructs on how a perfect body should look like. The movement has created a safe space for not only those who struggle with body image issues but also those with disabilities.

However, while body positivity was well-intended, it’s not a movement I follow. The reason being that somehow while encouraging people to love their bodies, the movement has made people hyper fixated on their bodies. To love your body, you have to think about your body, and to a lot of people thinking constantly about your body, even in a positive light, is detrimental.

 

Thus, instead of body positivity, I try to follow body neutrality.

Body neutrality is a fairly new movement that tells you to accept your body, for its capabilities and functions instead of for its appearance. The movement tells you that it’s fine to not love your body, appreciating it, and taking care of it is enough.

Unlike body positivity, body neutrality does not focus on how good our body looks. It focuses on being able to acknowledge the wonders our bodies do for us, without reducing it to only its physical aesthetic.

That’s what I try to do. But I appreciate my body for its capabilities and that’s why I try staying healthy.

 

Also Read: Objectification and Exploitation of Girls and Women by the Mass Media and the Social Media

 

Rishika Sen

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Rishika is a 17-year-old mental health advocate and writer.

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